Last week I posted a question “What are we searching for?” on Facebook. It sent me into a most interesting tailspin.
The responses I got ranged from the amusing to serious contemplation. It wasn’t so much the answers that sent me into a tailspin but rather reflecting on what generated them.
The answers reflected the state and presence of mind where that response came from. It is also determined by the identity and role of that person when writing.
It got me thinking about the perception of reality and how personal it really is.
Let us consider that behind every thought is an identity, defined by a set of behaviors and collection of experiences. These make-ups are influenced by the environment, past actions, enthusiasm, diet and awareness. To have any meaningful expression they all must integrate at some singular point of intelligence. What is this intelligence?
Whenever we respond to a situation we are usually coming from an identity based on a particular role. It is only natural. The role giving us that identity also determines how we engage and proceed. So the question comes: “Do we or the situation drive our experience and engagement?”
Whenever we feel a situation is getting ahead of us we usually associate the experience as being out of control. Have you noticed this tendency?
When we are able to effortlessly anticipate or adapt to a situation we believe we are in control.
But have you considered what we are really controlling?
If we take a closer look, all situations are made up of infinite possibilities and variables. It is a happening and only has relevance when we assign context and meaning to it.
Who assigns context and meaning to the situation? Is it from the identity based on a particular role at that instance? Even our roles are fashioned from situations!
So are situations ever in our control or is it just a grand cosmic coincidence?
Let me ask you: ‘Who experiences every situation?’ or ‘Who is experiencing?’
What is this intelligence that perceives this instance?
Controlling a situation is not really about its control but rather on our own experience of it. Control of a situation is really how we choose to engage the situation either consciously (respond) or unconsciously (react). So when we react most of the time we are not in control. When we respond we seem to be in control because we feel we had the opportunity to assess the situation and make an informed engagement.
Our perception of the world fluctuates between our expectations and the happening (instance).
The skill lies in seeing the situation as it really is. Any situation is just a happening at a particular instant. When we are experiencing this happening, we habitually assign context and meaning to it. The identity we are using to engage in the situation will also decide our experience of it. The value of the situation, whether good or bad, positive or negative, is like assigning a story, with a beginning, narrative and an ending. This must come from a ‘story-teller’, an identity derived from a role, influenced by the environment, past actions, enthusiasm, diet and awareness.
So how much are we really in control?
Consider this also; when we become attached to that identity we get entrapped in the expectations of that role and it may not always correlate with the happening (instance).
So what are we to do? It seems so hopeless trying to make sense of what we are searching for!
First, recognize that every situation is just a happening and constantly changing.
Second, recognize that you are the story-teller and be ready to drop this identity.
Many a times our perception of reality is clouded by judgments that prevent us from experiencing its totality.
To be able to see the situation for what it really is we need to have a clear mind.
So how does all this relate back to the question: ‘What are we searching for?’
Well, it triggered my thoughts on how conscious are we really of everything including ourselves.
Clarity of mind comes with clarity of vision. A clear vision comes from a clear mind. A clear mind arises from a person who is clear and settled about oneself. That is self-knowledge.
Meditation is the only technique and practice that can bring you this skill effortlessly.
“So what you seek is seeking you!” 🙂